About Kindness

**I sound like a cynical wastrel in this post, but I get better about halfway through. This just really irritates me, and I wanted to air my (easily disprovable) opinions.**

I was looking through Tumblr instead of doing work, like every other day of my life, when I found one of those inspirational things telling me that I'm beautiful.

Humph. I get overly worked up over everything, really, and this kind of thing really bothers me.

I will be universally hated for saying this, but I hate those. I hate those messages from random people on the Internet that tell me I'm beautiful and worth it.

They don't know who I am. They don't know a single thing about me- what if I am a horrible, sucky person? Why would you tell a horrible, sucky person that they are beautiful and everything will work out? What does sticking a sticky note saying "U R BEAUTIFUL!!! :)" in a dirty bathroom stall do for me if I'm feeling low? It doesn't reassure me. That message isn't for me. That message is for anyone. That message is even for the horrible person who's making me feel like scum. That makes me feel even worse.

Instead of sticking that in a stall and feeling like you're doing some service, talk to someone you actually know. For instance, I like my friends and family. They're all interesting, compassionate, creative people. I think that if I noticed someone I knew feeling worthless, I could comfort them better than any sticky note or tweet ever could, because I actually know what makes them beautiful and good. I (or you in this case) am better than the Internet when it comes to comfort- I am a person. While I am usually very awkward at comfort (and I know lots of people who have trouble with this kind of thing), it's nicer to have a person awkwardly telling you nice things than a computer screen spitting out the same reassurance to millions of people.

So keep an eye out for your friends' behavior. Sometimes we take them for granted, and that is one of the biggest mistakes we can make.

Quote for Sunday, April 10, 2011:

Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it.

-Author Unknown

Muse for Today:

IT'S TOO HOT. Also, charity. BUT it's too hot for April. My head feels full of humidity. Also, 1/3 of BEDA.